What we have here, « This Journey

Posted by: notfainthearted | June 28, 2007

What we have here,

is [yet another] failure to communicate.

The boys were supposed to stay at X’s tonight. So they could get up early to go to N&M’s farm with X to mow.

I came home from the movie at 11:00 p.m. to find teenager shoes all over the entry way.

Apparently, X “forgot” that DS2 had a baseball game tomorrow evening and so decided not to go to the farm tomorrow. That and something about not being able to take the day off.

So, the boys were returned home at the usual time.

Which is all well and good. Unless I had made plans to go somewhere for the night. Like Duluth. Or a cabin. Or out drinking until 2 a.m. Or any number of legitimate “entertainment” scenarios that one could think of when the children aren’t going to be home.

And if I say anything, the response will be an attitude-filled apology and a ‘promise’ that it won’t happen again. Like the last time. And the time before that. And the time…

Oh, you get the idea.

Posted in divorce

Responses

A failure to communicate? Or, perhaps, a structural inability? A car dosn’t fail to fly, you know? It just can’t. Although, clearly, my providing insights into your X’s psychology is pretty silly. Like you don’t know all this already.

By: Rich | Championable on June 28, 2007
at 7:55 am

That’s a great metaphor. Thank you. You’re exactly right. I keep expecting something that is a structural inability and the only one that keeps getting disappointed by that is me.
*sigh*

By: notfainthearted on June 28, 2007
at 8:40 am

That sort of thing has always driven me nuts. How DO you know the difference between “can’t” and “won’t”???? My spouse swears “we” need to work on “our” communications, but the only one who does (it seems) is me. And part of me has always wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, or more time to “work on it”, and then all of a sudden it’s months or years later and nothing has changed. Gah.

By: Debbie on June 28, 2007
at 10:23 am